Boldly-Forward

Contemplative pieces that spark transformation

  • The Story Behind My Elle Story
    on March 30, 2021

    How the long road can the be the destined road. I hope you have read my Elle piece,“The Other Side Of Indian Matchmaking: The Indian Divorce,”  about my Indian-American divorce.  I am humbled by its publication.  The story follows the long, painful, internal struggle I faced for many years about leaving my marriage because of the cultural and personal ramifications. — Boldly-Forward

  • Who are you, in 3 words?
    on February 19, 2021

    I’ve been in an explorative space lately.  Despite the mundaneness of quarantine, I have been able to have some exciting periods of creativity and exhilaration. These moment have come through simple conversations, reading and even while doing interviews. — Boldly-Forward

  • What Shibani’s Reading: Letting Go, by David R. Hawkins, M.D., Ph.D.
    on January 16, 2021

    Disclaimer: this book may change your life. Letting Go provides a method for understanding core emotions we all experience – like guilt and anger – and the process for letting go of our involuntary reactivity which, once examined, frees us to live from a more centered place. — Boldly-Forward

  • How I Say ‘Thank You’ With The Japanese Tradition of “Nengajo”
    on December 18, 2020

    The year-end is a reflective period for many of us. We think back on our accomplishments and losses for the year, fueling new hopes – or resolutions –  for the future. — Boldly-Forward

  • Try It: Take A Moment For Box Breathing
    on November 14, 2020

    If you clicked on this article, you need this – a moment to yourself. Some days, I feel my household is on the verge of losing it. I’m yelling, or they’re yelling, about Zoom codes, stepping on toys, the printer not working, that dinner isn’t to someone’s liking, over the household chores…over it all. — Boldly-Forward

  • 3 Prayers for Health and Healing of a Loved One
    on October 17, 2020

    “Please pray for me.” Have you ever been asked to pray for someone?  I recently received news that a close friend suddenly fell ill and was struggling for her life.  On that call, I was asked to pray for her.  After hanging up, I immediately sat down to pray…then stalled.  What do I do? What should I say?  Growing up in Oklahoma, a request for prayers was as common as making brunch plans. — Boldly-Forward

  • Why Now Is Time For Women To Go On A “Money Date”
    on September 5, 2020

    When was the last time you had a conversation with your partner about money? For many of us, it has been awhile.  It is something we have control over while we are single. — Boldly-Forward

  • Learning To Embrace, Not Avoid, Conflict
    on August 17, 2020

    “I don’t want to swim today, Mom,” says my middle child, sprawled upon my bed. It is an hour before his lesson. He already dressed in his shirt-print swim trunks “Why not?” I yell out from the bathroom, as I brush my hair. — Boldly-Forward

  • What Shibani’s Reading: Wild Things, by Stephen James and David Thomas
    on August 10, 2020

    When I found out I was having a boy as a second child, I kind of freaked out.  “What in the world will I do with a boy?” I wondered.  — Boldly-Forward

  • Meditating Through The Family Chaos
    on July 25, 2020

    It is 5.30am.   I peel my elbow, knees and toes away from the three tiny bodies slumbering in my bed.  Even though it is a king-sized bed, it barely contains us.  Some part of my body is stuck to another’s. — Boldly-Forward

  • The Cultural Grey Zone of My Indian-Americanness
    on July 18, 2020

    If you were to ask my Mumbai cousins how they would describe me, they would say, “She’s American.” If you ask my cousins in LA, they would say, “She’s Indian.” I’m Desi AND American. — Boldly-Forward

  • A South Asian Mother’s First Real Conversation About Race
    on June 6, 2020

    It is an hour past his bedtime when I hear a gentle knock at the bedroom door.  “Mama, I’m scared. Can I come in?” my middle child’s voice is muffled but recognizable.  I walk to the door beginning to open and ask, “What’s up, bud?” I expect another request to tuck him into bed or for water. — Boldly-Forward

  • What Shibani’s Reading: The Artist’s Way
    on May 14, 2020

    This book has been recommended to me by a handful of people over the years. I am finally heeding the call to read The Artist’s Way and write “morning pages.” The Artist’s Way is isn’t just for so-called “artists” but for anyone who has ideas that need gestating and development. — Boldly-Forward

  • Lessons in the ‘Groundhog’ Days of Quarantine
    on April 29, 2020

    I feel much like Bill Murray’s character in the movie “Groundhog Day.” For six weeks, my alarm has been set for the same time each day, chiming with a zen iPhone tone, which now seems just as annoying as the daily blare of “I Got You Babe” in the movie. — Boldly-Forward

  • 10 Tips From My Sheltering In Place To Share Ahead of Yours
    on March 20, 2020

    Want to know what part of your life will change during a shelter in place directive? Here’s my experience from a few days of sheltering in place in the Bay Area for those of you in SoCal, NYC and others facing the same. — Boldly-Forward

  • Affirmations and Tips To Help Ease Coronavirus Anxiety
    on March 7, 2020

    You handwash. Your fridge is stocked. You have sanitizer in your car. You are prepared for the battle against coronavirus. But your mind is still uneasy. Even in being prepared, some of us are feeling coronavirus anxiety. — Boldly-Forward

  • What Shibani’s Reading: EMF*D by Dr. Mercola
    on February 29, 2020

    Friends, I am officially spooked. The more I read about EMF (electromagnetic field) exposures, the so-called low-level radiation emitted by our cell phones and Alexa-devices, deemed to be “harmless” to humans, the more I want to duck and cover.   — Boldly-Forward

  • Try It: Replace “Have Tos” With “Get Tos” Today
    on February 21, 2020

    It is 5.45am. My alarm sounds. I am cocooned under my soft duvet, protected from the chilly morning air.   My alarm sound grows louder. Even though I chose a more zen alarm tone, windchimes are still jolting to this sleeping person.  I do not like the wind chimes at this moment.  I am not ready to let the day in. — Boldly-Forward

  • Valentine’s Days Gone But Not Easily Forgotten
    on February 14, 2020

    I grab my wallet, keys and phone and toss them in my shopping tote.  I am only bringing 2 bags inside, to discourage me from purchasing more than what I need. — Boldly-Forward

  • What I Learned About Living From Kobe Bryant’s Death
    on January 27, 2020

    Though it is 6.45am, the rising sun remains hidden behind the school buildings. The orange hues that peek out make a warm backdrop for the gleaming white charter buses approaching the campus.  My daughter and 43 of her fellow 4th grade classmates, who are already crowding the edge of the sidewalk, press even closer. — Boldly-Forward

  • What Shibani’s Reading: Becoming Supernatural by Dr. Joe Dispenza
    on December 20, 2019

    I have been dancing around the work of Dr. Joe Dispenza for years.  First in the film, What The Bleep Do We Know, and then in podcasts online, where he describes his experience healing his spinal injury with methodical meditative techniques. — Boldly-Forward